[Neurons] 2012 Meta Reflections #3

[L. Michael Hall]

From: L. Michael Hall

Meta Reflections 2011  #3

January 16, 2012

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Neuro-Semantics (#5)

 

 

 

PREMISES OF 

THE NEURO-SEMANTIC MODEL

 

 

Premise 6: Neuro-Semantics searches for the structure of experiences.
Neuro-Semantics arose from the revolutionary work of Alfred Korzybski in the
field of General Semantics via his book Science and Sanity.  That work
initiated the search for structure.  That's because Korzybski said that the
only content of knowledge is structure.  If our maps are not the same as the
territory, but are symbols, maps, representations, facsimiles of the
territory, then structure, and structure only, can give clue as to what
we're dealing with and how to cope effectively as we move through the
territory. 

 


>From this concept Korzybski provides NLP its foundation.  The developers of

NLP founded their approach upon the core principle of General Semantics:
"The map is not the territory."  That lead them to searching for the
structure of the interventions and communications that seemed so magical
which that they found in the therapeutic geniuses-Fritz Perls, Virginia
Satir, and Milton Erickson.  And with the development of NLP, of "the study
of the structure of subjectivity," came a whole field dedicated to modeling
the structure of experience.7

 

In the meantime, other disciplines developed a very similar vision and
direction.  From the Cognitive Sciences, the neuro-sciences, meta-cognition,
cognitive linguistics, artificial intelligence, etc., the search for
structure continued.

 

Neuro-Semantics, growing out of NLP and other disciplines, continues this
adventure of studying the structure of intentionality and meaning.  Doing
this takes NLP to a new level.  Using the Meta-States Model, we explore the
levels of mind to model the systemic structure we find in actual awareness.
This means modeling the structure of reflexivity, recursiveness, thinking in
circles, thinking in loops, going round and round, etc.  It's all very
messy.  It lacks the nice linear black-and-white structure of Behaviorism's
old Stimulus-Response model. 

 

Premise 7: Neuro-Semantics facilitates the change process in multiple ways.
I have already mentioned three change factors: create a high quality
relationship of rapport  for the safety and trust that allows a person to
experience a mirroring of his or her own reality.  The older psychologists
(Freud, Adler, Jung, etc.) often said, "Awareness per se is curative."  And
sometimes it is.  Sometimes when you can truly and safely see and hear
yourself and witness yourself, that awareness changes things.  Suddenly the
deception is over.  So just your presence of care, compassion, safety, and
trustworthiness as you enter the system, changes things.

But not always.  If the kind of awareness you bring to yourself is
judgmental awareness, you will make things worse.  Then a downward negative
spiraling begins.  So that's where holding the frame in the context of just
exploring to see what's there introduces non-judgmental awareness and pure
witnessing.  NLP got this idea of pure witnessing as a powerful change agent
from Fritz Perls who said, "Lose your mind and come to your senses."

 

Third, there is the change factor of changing the frame.  If the frame of
meaning is the problem, then changing it, changes the person.
Transformation occurs by altering the reference point.  And whether it is an
old belief, decision, understanding, prohibition, intention, identity,
metaphor, etc., altering or reframing the mental map transforms things.

 

Two key change principles that we use in Neuro-Semantics are these.

First, we can change no one, but as we change, the game changes and that
invites others to change.

Second, we can change no one, but we can facilitate another to choose to
change.

 

Both of these principles empower you to give up the need to change people.
Knowing that you can't, you then release others from the grip of your
manipulations.  And when you do, something magical happens.  People change.
They change because the pressure is off.  And when the pressure is off, then
the person is thrown back on one of the most important Neuro-Semantic
principles: The responsibility and freedom of choice point.

 

Choice point can occur at any and every meta-level in a person's Matrix.  By
holding the frames, mirroring them back, providing a context of care and
support, you invite a person to step back or step up and gain a larger or
wider perspective.  "Ah, this is what you have been thinking-feeling,
believing, understanding, identifying with, etc., how is that?"  It's an
open-ended question and it is a question that begins to invite the person to
a point of choice.

"So what do you want to do?  Do you like that belief?  That prohibition?
That intention?  Does that understanding serve you well?  Does that frame
empower you as a person?"

 

These are quality control questions, because that's what they do.  They
invite the person to check the quality of their frames and at the same time
they put the person at choice point.  It is their life.  What will they do?
Perceiving at this higher level empowers them now with the ability to
respond as so they choose.  And this typically is creates a leverage for the
changes that the person has been looking for.

 

Facilitating change in a person who has developed a strong enough sense of
self (what we call ego-strength) moves through four stages: Motivation,
Decision, Creation, and Integration.  These are the four axes in the Axes of
Change Model of Neuro-Semantics which was originally designed for the
Meta-Coaching System.  That is, to facilitate a person through the change
process requires four resources:




I.                   Energy or motivation to move away from what does not
work and energy to move toward one's dreams, visions, and hopes- the life
that a person wants to experience.  Is there enough energy in the person's
mind-body system to invest the effort for change?  If no, work the
motivation axes.  If yes, then move to the next resource.

 

II.                Decisiveness to make an informed and clearly weighed
decision for paying the price that the change will require.  Has the person
weighed the pros and cons of making the change and of not making the change?
Is the person crystal clear about the price that he or she will pay for
making the decision for or against the change?  If no, then probe the
person's pros and cons and the values inherent in each and then challenge
them to make the decision.  If yes, then move on to the next resource.

 

III.             A creative new vision mapped out as a blueprint of the new
life chosen and a plan for innovating this creativity in everyday life.
With the preparation for change completed, now comes the research and
development phase as the person puts together a plan or a strategy for the
change.  Does the person know with precision and clarity what and how she
will make the change happen?  Does the person have a time-table and schedule
for beginning to innovate and actualize the plan?  If no, then work the
creation axes.  If yes, then move on to the next resource.

 

IV.             An integration in life-style so that the new change is now
in muscle-memory as the person's way of being in the world.  Change created
and begun won't last if not practiced in a disciplined way until it becomes
automatic and one's default program.  Have you reinforced and celebrated
that successful steps so that a person finds the effort rewarded and the
pattern now integrated?  Have you begun the continuous improvement of
testing the pattern to see what else could be taken to a new level?  If no,
then work the integration axes.  If yes, then what's the next change you
want to embrace and experience?

 

Facilitating change in Neuro-Semantics can occur in that deliberate,
conscious, and methodical way; it can also occur in a more unconscious and
holistic way.  For that we use The Crucible Model.8  This model utilizes the
key change ingredients of Carl Rogers (unconditional positive regard,
accurate empathy, and authenticity) along with other ingredients from
Maslow, May, etc.- witnessing, acceptance, responsibility, and appreciation.
Put all these together into a metaphorical space that brings out a person's
best and you can then create a crucible space where old learnings can be
reprocessed and the heat of truth-response-ability-and appreciation can come
together for a transformation.  The clue that it works is an ecstasy of
falling back in love with life, with self, with others, with
meaningfulness.8

 

Premise 8: Neuro-Semantics facilitates an unleashing of potentials that
enables the transformation of personality, identity, and life's purpose.
Finally, all of these premises culminate in the premise of
self-actualization.  It was Maslow and Rogers who postulated that the
self-actualization drive is our most fundamental drive of all.  It is the
drive to keep moving forward and upward in making real (actualizing) what is
clamoring within you.  This life-long and never-ending drive is a drive to
be real, to be who and what you are, and to keep transcending and including
your current life situation.

 

This is a drive for becoming increasingly more and more authentic so that
you unleash your real self.  And in doing that, then you step into "the
zone" or the "flow" zone, or the "genius" state of experiencing and giving
yourself to that which makes you come truly alive and make a contribution
that makes a difference in the world.9

 

Here's a paradox: while self-actualization has the term "self" within it, it
is not about you.  It is about actualizing yourself- your gifts, abilities,
potentials, etc. so that you can truly contribute what is uniquely yours to
contribute.  And in that way, you truly make a difference in the world.

 

 

 

 

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